Wednesday, September 2, 2026

The Cherry on Top


“We repeat the journeys of those we love, walking the same paths a generation later." — unknown

The paper birch at the corner of the Wagon Wheel Road and Ira Dow Road is old and witness to all who pass by. A wide crack in its bark extends well up into its branches and yet, when I look up at its crown, its leaves are a lively green and its canopy full and healthy. This birch doesn't mark the actual corner because that spot is occupied by a middle aged sugar maple. A large star made of pressure treated lumber is propped against its trunk. I'm not sure what year the star appeared, but I know it was placed there by our neighbors who were in the process of remodeling their house. During that same time, stars began appearing throughout Vermont, attached to houses, fences and barns. I really enjoyed the unique variety and placement of these stars and later learned they were representative of a town's unity and togetherness. The building of stars might have begun during Covid when many of us were at home with idle hands and an unknown future. 

On a November day, with the dark days of winter approaching, my husband helped me staple white twinkle lights onto the star at the corner. It was a tricky task to avoid stapling through the fine wire that connected the tiny bulbs, but we were able to attach lights to all five points. I anxiously awaited darkness to see how our project had turned out. When it was sufficiently dark, I walked excitedly to the corner. What I saw was perfect!!

Many days after adorning the star with lights, I regretted that I hadn't asked our neighbor for permission to do so. After all, they had built the star and placed it on the corner. So I decided to text message them. In my message, I mentioned how much we appreciated their building the star and we hoped they didn't mind our adding the lights. The response I received has stayed with me.

“Your addition of lights to the star, is the cherry on top”!


Maintaining the star throughout the long winter became my focus. It took multiple strings of lights to cover the star's five points. These were originally battery powered. Often, one string would die while the others stayed lit, resulting in interesting geometric designs. Each string also had many modes. The lights could alternate flashing, fade out, blink frantically or remain steadily on. I preferred steady on, but sometimes the modes got switched and the lights on one point of the star might flash frantically while another point was fading on and off. Straightening out this erratic illumination required a nighttime visit and since the modes couldn't be operated when wearing mittens or gloves, the act of straightening things out resulted in frozen fingers. 

One winter, the Town snow plow hit the base of the star dislodging it from the maple. Several of the star's points were damaged and its lights were hopelessly broken. Once again, my husband helped me with the needed repairs. He replaced the broken wood and securely fastened the star to the trunk of the maple. I restrung it using solar lights, forever making my job as the neighborhood “lamplighter” easier and also eliminating the guilt I felt when using batteries and disposing of them.

It's been well over thirty years since our own children waited on the corner for the school bus. We stood in the cool air among falling maple leaves, listening for the sound of the bus engine, straining as it climbed the last steep hill and looking down the gravel road hoping to catch a glimpse of yellow. Waiting games were played. Throw a rock into the yellow birch leaves and catch one before it hits the ground. Who can throw rocks at the school bus sign and hit it the most times? And the most challenging of all. I dare you to  walk through the culvert beneath the Ira Dow Road. This dark metal tube, just high enough for a child to stand upright, was filled with spider webs. These webs were constructed of strong, elastic like fiber and would not break when a small body pressed against them, but instead would twist around limbs and tangle in hair. The echoed screams from inside that ribbed metal tube were surely heard in the valley below! We called them Wolf Spiders, although I'm sure that wasn't their true name, but it added to the danger of entering such a place. 

Most school day mornings, the dog and I walked to the bus stop.  We picked blackberries along the roadside and my fingers were stained a reddish blue that could last for days.


As our kids grew older, they walked by themselves or rode their bikes to the bus, leaning them against the maple and birch until afternoon drop off. In the blink of an eye, some could drive and fewer kids waited on the corner and eventually no kids waited. 
August 2026

Neither the Town nor the bus company remembered a route that included a bus stop at the corner of Wagon Wheel and Ira Dow Roads. If only the maple or birch could talk! They said the corner was too severe for the bus to safely turn around and the star might need to be removed. However, after much deliberation, the star remained fastened to the maple and kids once again gathered at the corner. No one held phones or wore head
sets. There were greetings and conversation about classes and teachers. Our son, having waited at this very spot in his youth, now waited with his daughters. He demonstrated for all the art of throwing a stone up into the birch leaves hoping to dislodge a leaf to be caught as it fluttered to earth. This skillful act was watched by all, but no one was quick to try. Perhaps it will be tried later without parents in attendance or as the result of upcoming boredom. 

My granddaughters

Some of us looked at the star and I said the lights needed replacing. I showed the neighbor girl the broken wires. She told me it was her star and that the one in the village was her sister's. I'm fairly certain she wasn't born when her family built the star. I asked her what color lights I should put on the star before winter and she quickly replied "rainbow". I thought to myself, what a perfect answer. Now, how to achieve that! 

Our son, who adeptly threw rocks into the birch leaves, will have many more opportunities to show the new kids the old ways of waiting for the bus. He now owns the "big" house where he grew up and sleeps in the same bedroom he once shared with his older brother. We are building a "small" house just footsteps away. I’m happy that once again I'll be walking to the corner with my granddaughters and picking blackberries along the way. We'll stand with our neighbors near the star, listening for the sound of the bus approaching. It's my hope that soon multi-colored star lights will brighten winter nights and fulfill one young girl's wishes.

Big house

Little house












 







Tuesday, February 3, 2026

Rabbit, Rabbit, Rabbit




My bare feet touched the cold pine boards of our bedroom floor in stark contrast to the warmth of our down covered bed. I quickly pulled on my fleece pants and top which I had strategically placed before jumping into bed the night before. This made them easy to find in the early morning darkness. I made sure the fleece pieces were right side out and laid in such a way that no additional time was needed for my limbs to enter. Our bedroom is heated, but when nighttime temperatures are single digit or below zero, the heat struggles to reach 60 degrees, usually 57-59. Perfect sleeping temperatures. The sun can quickly warm the room, but this past January, it was shy about appearing. If it did break free of the clouds, it was diffused through the Spruce trees.

Heat escapes out our very large bedroom window, but I've never wanted it covered, preferring to watch the ever changing world outside.

This morning, before strolling to the coffee pot, I twirled in place three times and speaking quietly, so I wouldn't wake my sleeping husband, I uttered “rabbit, rabbit, rabbit”. 
February had finally arrived, bringing with it increased daylight and my hope for good luck.

The glow of Christmas lights was long past and my head cold, which arrived on New Year’s Day, had  disappeared except for a lingering cough. The 31 days of January, at times, had felt 2 months long. Thankfully, along with January’s snow and cold came birthday celebrations and hockey.

BB's birthday ski included missing school and hotdogs!


The ice of the pond returned, leading me to think shoveling wouldn't be needed for a return to skating. What looked like solid ice, was in fact overflow produced by the weight of the snow forcing water to the surface. BB and Esme skated over the rough ice while I picked up hockey pucks embedded in snow banks the result of errant shots on goal. I had no luck retrieving a shovel and a goal that were solidly frozen in.

By mid-January, Bucky and I had a routine of having tea around 3:30 in the afternoon. It was a chance for me to pull a blanket around my feet and warm myself from both inside and out. Three nights a week, I’d also warm my dance clothes by the pellet stove, before stripping down in the heat to pull them on. How lucky we are not to have close neighbors! From any room in our house, I can look out through large windows without fear of others looking in. In January, when darkness arrives at 4:00, getting in my car at 6 o’clock to drive to town is hard, but it's been a habit for 40 plus years and I always return home feeling better for having gone.
Most of our children and grandchildren have played or are presently playing ice hockey. Bucky commented recently on how we've been watching kids play hockey for over 40 years. It's easy to watch hockey games knowing we're not responsible for transporting players to practices and games that start way too early in the morning and are played too far away, sometimes during winter blizzards. We can now share with our children, who are driving our grandchildren to games, the harrowing experiences we had of hitting black ice on I 89 or white knuckling it through the curves of Roxbury Mountain Road with them asleep in the back seat. Those "near death" experiences are never forgotten.
Quinn #7 is following in her sister Hana's footsteps with the C on her sweater this season.

Quinn

Levi wore #5 as a player and now coaches his daughters, BB #5 and Esme #7, like cousin Quinn.

BB

Esme

Ceremonial puck drop by BB with her cousin Quinn #7

The future!

Quinn, BB and Esme.

Burke's boys are also tearing up the ice from Connecticut to Canada. Bucky and I watch them using an app on my phone called Live Barn. We're able to screen mirror the games to our TV. It a great way to follow the action when games are played out of town, out of state and even out of country. However, we took the opportunity to watch Joseph and Justice play in a suburb of Montreal. Typical of Quebec in January, we were greeted at the border with  bitterly cold and windy weather. Our many walks from the snow clogged parking lots to the rinks of Sportplexe Pierrefonds provided us with plenty of fresh air. 
Burke and Joseph

Justice and the West Hartford Wolves

Bucky and I made the trip from the suburbs into Montreal's Chinatown. It was well worth the slipping and sliding on both the highway and the sidewalks. Due to poor weather, we were lucky to find a parking space right outside our favorite shop for buying duck. The barbecued pork we bought was also delicious and devoured before we were back at the hotel.





Our calendar still shows hockey for the month of February and into March, but Hana begins her lacrosse season soon. Thank goodness for artificial turf. I'm sure it will be April and possibly May before we'll feel the sun on our faces in the bleachers.



I recently took this photo and wanted to include it in this post. It has nothing to do with hockey nor do I know this couple, but it spoke to me in several ways. In it, I see a loving couple with compromised mobility sharing their day, not at the Sportplexe Pierrefonds, but in the frozen food aisle of Walmart. His Johnson Wool hunting coat tells me that he was and possibly still is an outdoorsman. I see a couple facing life and its trials together. It was a scene that made me thankful for my spouse and the fact that we were able to trudge through the slush of Montreal to buy a duck. Perhaps it's not what we're doing or where we're doing it, but more about who we're doing it with. Life with loved ones is indeed a luxury.